I know how it feels…walking the tight-rope of life as if one step in the wrong direction and everything would come crashing down. Singer Colbie Caillat put it to music,
“And I remember the time my balance was fine
And I was just walking on one fine wire
But It’s frayed at both the ends
And I’m slow unraveling”
But life doesn’t have to feel this way. In fact, your life can have great stability! The key is understanding where to fix your gaze. In tight-rope walking (and in life) you have success by fixing your eyes on something stable. If you look at the constantly moving circumstances around you (down at your feet) you’re going to feel extremely unstable. But if you fix your eyes ahead of you on things that are steady you’ll have a greater sense of stability, even if you don’t feel like you have control over everything around you.
Here are three destabilizers and one stabilizers. Choose to fix your eyes on the stabilizer and bring some stability to your life!
1.) (DESTABILIZER) Opinions of others. I’m all about getting wise counsel and seeking advice. This is very important to your success. But you need to seek that advice from the right people. Living your life based off the unsolicited opinions of your friends and anyone who stops by your Facebook page is hugely destabilizing. When you do seek advice, search out someone who is accountable for what they tell you…someone who has an investment in your life and the experience to guide you in the right direction.
2.) (DESTABILIZER) Your feelings. Feelings have a great purpose. Because you have them you experience a wide-range of emotions. You get so much out of every moment in life because of them. But feelings are not a great place to fix your gaze. They are extremely volatile. You wake up feeling one way and feel a completely different way by breakfast. Living your life by what you feel will result in huge ups and downs.
3.) (DESTABILIZER) Circumstances. The tight-rope of life is in constant motion. There will always be circumstances beyond your control. If you go through life simply reacting to those circumstances, then you will have no stability. But if you respond to those circumstances in a way that moves you toward a fixed goal, your life will have stability no matter what comes your way. I think this is complicated, so a quick example with stocks. If you invest in a stock with no financial plan, every time the stock price moves up or down you’ll be tempted to make a move. Every circumstance related to your stock will prompt a reaction from you to sell or buy. If you have a financial plan, however, backing your decision to purchase the stock, you decision-making will be much more clear and stable. You’ll know exactly when to sell or buy based on fixed goals that you set beforehand.
4.) (STABILIZER) God’s Word. Have you ever wondered why some people base their values and belief systems in an ancient book? This is why: It does not change. If you live your life based on the Word of God, you will always have stability. You will always have an unmoving source to look to no matter what circumstances are thrown at you. It sounds simple, right? It is. Our lives are unstable only because we look to unstable things. If we’ll fix our eyes on the unmoving, never-changing Word of God for every decision and every belief, our life will make sense in a way we never thought possible.
I thought you would enjoy these Scriptures on this topic:
“Heaven and earth will pass away, but My Words will not pass away” -Matthew 24:3
“Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith….” -Hebrews 12:2
“O give praise to the Lord, for he is good: for his mercy is unchanging for ever.” 1 Chronicles 16:24
“In the same way God, desiring even more to show to the heirs of the promise the unchangeableness of His purpose, interposed an oath, so that by two unchangeable things in which it is impossible for God to lie, we who have taken refuge would have strong encouragement to take hold of the hope set before us. This hope we have as an anchor of the soul, a hope both sure and steadfast…“ -Hebrews 6:17-19
What stabilizers and destabilizers have you noticed? What helps you bring stability to your life?