The Honor Cycle works synergistically among generations. You have the opportunity to initiate the cycle in two directions: first, by practicing honor toward your parents, and then by purposefully releasing a blessing over your children.
Blessing sounds to me like such a spiritual thing. And while it is deeply spiritual, it doesn’t have to be that far-out of a concept. One of the first recorded blessings was actually from God, when he first created Man.
“God blessed them; and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth, and subdue it; and rule over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the sky and over every living thing that moves on the earth.“
Like this charge from God, blessings are simply words that come from the heart and speak identity and purpose over another person. When those words are inspired by God and received by the hearer, they have power to shape the future.
Biblically, the blessing of a parent is extremely special. In his final moments, Jacob lined up his children and blessed each of them. His words became accurate predictions of their future. When the writer of Hebrews referenced this moment, he used the Greek word eulogeo for the blessing that Jacob gave. I love this definition of that word: “to cause to prosper.” When you speak words of blessing over your children, you set them up to prosper in every realm of life! (tweet this)
Releasing Blessing is the other side of the Honor Cycle. It works hand in hand with Practicing Honor to empower generations to build a more prosperous future, one on the other.
Practically speaking, what does releasing blessing mean to you?
Check out this story from the Book of Genesis. Noah’s son, Ham, finds his father naked and drunk in his tent. Ham dishonored his father by telling his brothers, so that they could all make fun of Noah together. Ham’s brothers chose to honor their father and covered his body. They went so far as to make sure that they didn’t even see him, walking backwards with a blanket toward him. Clearly, this was not Noah’s shining moment. And while his actions that day were not worthy of honor, two of his sons purposed in their hearts to honor their father anyway. They even covered up their father’s moment of weakness and their eyes so they wouldn’t see it.
Scripture encourages you to value your parents, setting them up to be influences in your life, whether they deserve it or not! Seems crazy, right? But, God knows what He’s doing. He knows parents and teachers won’t be perfect, but He wants them valued anyway. With children of my own, I’m beginning to see how important this will be for their future. When I mess up, I’ll need them to be able to overlook it and still look to me for wisdom and guidance along the way. If they don’t, they’ll miss out on the good stuff I actually do have to offer them.
Three Misconceptions About Honor: (CLICK TO TWEET)
1.) Honor is For Minors: The commandment to honor does not expire with age. Fortunately, neither do the benefits. In fact, they grow richer as you grow older. You can initiate The Honor Cycle at any age by choosing to put value on other people.
2.) Honor is Earned: You don’t have to wait for a perfect person to earn your honor. Parents can be valued simply for being your parents, with no conditions. Withholding honor, even for legitimate concerns, only isolates you from the blessing that practicing honor brings.
3.) Honor is an Action: This is an important distinction. Honor is not an action. Honor is a decision of the heart. It will produce action, but at its core honor is simply choosing that someone else is valuable.
You and I aren’t perfect. Do we ever need people to overlook our failures and value us anyway?
Deception and Manipulation seem to be a favored approach to leadership today. This short video uncovers what’s behind it and helps you take a better leadership path.
Recommended Reading: Genesis 27-33
Questions for Discussion:
1.) Which leadership path are you on?
2.) How does your relationship with God instruct your leadership style?
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There are many traps on the way to becoming a great leader. This short video identifies two and provides quick solutions to help you overcome them. I look forward to your comments on the discussion questions below.
Recommended Reading: Genesis 3
Some Questions for Discussion:
1.) In your current leadership role, what are the sources of your authority?
2.) What is an example of how you could compromise or neglect that source?
3.) How can you do a better job taking responsibility on your team when things go wrong?
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