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Posted by on Mar 12, 2013 in Communication | 2 comments

Perspective on Sex

Perspective on Sex

SexThere’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, “The two become one.” Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever – the kind of sex that can never “become one.”

There is a sense in which sexual sins are different from all others. In sexual sin we violate the sacredness of our own bodies, these bodies that were made for God-given and God-modeled love, for “becoming one” with another. Or didn’t you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit? Don’t you see that you can’t live however you please, squandering what God paid such a high price for? The physical part of you is not some piece of property belonging to the spiritual part of you. God owns the whole works. So let people see God in and through your body.

Now, getting down to the questions you asked in your letter to me. First, Is it a good thing to have sexual relations? Certainly – but only within a certain context. It’s good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality – the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to “stand up for your rights.” Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out.

1 Corinthians 6:16 – 7:4

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  • Personally, I think the topic of sex is not addressed often enough within the church (as a whole). The message I received most of my life through church and various Christian leaders and teachers was “Don’t have sex if you aren’t married.” Unfortunately, the message usually stops there. As a result, I’ve seen two equally troubling consequences among Christians, single and married alike. The first is insurmountable shame regarding sexual sin, which is compounded by the perception that the subject should not be discussed openly. There are some great ministries out there which help people find healing (one of my favorites is XXXChurch, which mainly addresses pornography addiction and helping people get out of the porn industry), but even some of the best established and most well-known have difficulty getting into churches to provide education or services. The other consequence is a complete disregard of Biblical principles surrounding sex, often as a result of inadequate discussion/understanding of God’s plan for the spiritual nature of sex. I have seen many times people ask questions, and the only response given is “Don’t have sex because the Bible says not to.” However, they are given little to know instruction as to what, exactly, the Bible says or where they can find Biblical answers. So, with no answer, they assume it’s not really that important any more.

    Obviously, these two scenarios aren’t always the case, but I’ve seen them play out time and time again. I think the way to address sex is through transparent conversations. Yes, there are proper ways to go about having those conversations, but they should happen nonetheless. So, thanks, Harrison, for opening up opportunities for conversation.

    • I agree. We’ve left the topic of sex largely up to people outside the church to define. And people outside the church don’t have any sense of God’s design or His empowerment to live by His design. Perspective really changes when you add a spiritual dynamic. Otherwise, sex is only a body and soul thing. Spirit provides the clarity and leadership people are looking for. If you know people who would like to dialogue, share this post with them. Let’s dialogue!